Lasting Love

How to maintain love? It's a wonder if a couple could maintain their love forever. Don't you think so. Lasting love is there but the feel of it always almost diminished. Why?

Firstly, it could be due to time factor. During courtship, everything is so beautiful and love could be felt. Then comes marriage when a couple decides to settle down. When kids come along, there's when the feel will slowly goes down. 

Every married couple would definitely feel the stress of marriage. So much things to think about. What more when the kids get bigger and bigger. Financial is another headache provided they are well off.

Most couple don't have the lovey dovey feel anymore when they are deeper into marriage. Anyway, love is of course still deep inside..

Money or love

Which would you choose? Money or love. 

We can't deny that money is very important in one's life. Without money, we might be miserable as we couldn't get to do what the rich could do.

Of course, love is important too. You would rather our spouse to love us than just lavish us with all the stuff that he/she could get for us.

In my opinion, when one has the money, one would rather choose Love. As we know, money can't buy love. Love is hard to come by and it couldn't be sold too.

So even if we are not rich, we could still live by love. And if we are rich but there's no Love, what's the point?

Love or hate

In our lives, there are so many things that we either love or hate.

I definitely hate it when I need to get up early in the morning to get to work.
I love to sleep on and get up on my own without the sounding from the alarm clock.

I love to cook for my family.
I hate to eat out every time.

I love people who are honest.
I hate people who are dishonest.

Most of all, I love to be loved.
I hate to be taken for granted..

Healthy or wealthy

What's the point of being wealthy when you are not healthy? I just couldn't understand why some people just refuse to take care of their own health. They may have so much money that they splash it on liquors and cigarettes. They know very well that these two would definitely ruin their health and thus their lives. But they couldn't care less. Drinking and smoking are of utmost importance to them..

Finally, when they fell sick and need treatments, they don't mind spending their fortune on that. What's the point? They might as well spend their money on good food that keeps them healthy..

Anger won't overcome any problem

Why should one get angry when someone else does something wrong. Anger won't solve the problem. It might create angry environment. Why can't the problem be solved in a cool way.

As for me, I wouldn't like to be scolded should I do anything wrong. No one is perfect and we are bound to make mistakes.

I would prefer to be told in a nicer way rather than being scolded.

Appreciation

We should appreciate what others did for us.

Sex in Marriage

Sex is crucial in a marriage if you want to keep the marriage alive. It plays a huge part in its success. It can be the difference between looking outside of the marriage for sexual satisfaction and not. Too often though, life takes over and before you know it, you stop making love. Your only romantic liaison may be a quick romp under the bedcovers on a Friday night with the lights turned off. Sound familiar?

Remember, making love is far more unique than having sex. Anyone can have sex, but not everyone can make love.

 

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my view:

The moment we step into marriage, we can't run away from sex. But do we actually appreciate it? Do we just do it for producing kids or just for satisfaction? Different people has different opinion. But I believe making love is more important than just merely have sex..

The Difference Between Doing What You Love and Loving What You Do as a Job or Career

Many of the most visible examples of people doing what they love are sports figures, actors, dancers, writers, photographers, and musicians. These are activities many of us (including those doing it for a living) either do – or would do – for free; and many of us even pay to do some of these things. You know what I mean. It’s like the person who dreamed all their lives about becoming a Broadway actor or dancer (had the vision); went to school on loans, scholarships, or their own cash to learn to act and dance (had the opportunity); and then spent years and did hundreds of auditions (and lived through hundreds of rejections) to work their way up to Broadway (had the commitment). [Important note: some of you may be thinking right now that this also involves “luck”. Well, that’s for another article, but in my opinion “luck” is merely what happens when opportunity meets preparation. In other words, if you have the vision and commitment, when the “opportunity” presents itself – and it will – you’ll be prepared and “luck” happens]

 

 

 

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my story:

I did what I love as a teacher but now I love what I do in my husband's shop. You might ask, "Why don't you do what you love?"

Well, I was teaching and I enjoyed the work and even the benefits of it. But lately, my husband needed me in his shop as his brother/partner had left the conpany. Without thinking twice, I jumped into it. Initially, I was not happy as my husband expected a lot out of me. I needed time to adjust myself and also to learn new stuff. But he was very impatient. And yet I persisted..

But I learned very fast and I knew I would love this new job. So as time went by, I acquired most of the skills and now I am happily working in the shop. Thus, we can love what we do too...

Greedy kids

Have you noticed that we seem to have a lot of greedy kids these days? The general public agrees and feels that increased numbers of today's youth are self-centered, spoiled, greedy, and materialistic. Instead of being appreciative of what they have, these critters seem to want more, more, more. Kids' ravenous, never-satisfied manner certainly drains a checkbook, but something even more dangerous happens: greediness vaporizes their hearts and souls.

http://life.familyeducation.com/

Qigong helps fight cancer

SHANGHAI: The stress of modern living had prompted many around the world to learn qigong. Recent joint studies from China and the United States also show that qigong can help cancer patients live longer.

One community club in Shanghai is practising a form of qigong that has helped members recover from life-threatening illnesses over the past 20 years.

Cancer survivor Qiu Jia Ming, 65, who suffered from pancreatic cancer years ago, said: "I was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer when I was 50 years old and the doctor told me I only had three months to live. But I've survived 14 years now."




I believe this kind of exercise could definitely help to relieve the stress that cancer patients experience..

A story of Trust

A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.
The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter:
"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river." The little girl said:
"No, Dad. You hold my hand."
"What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father.

"There's a big difference," replied the little girl.
"If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours... 

 

http://www.boardofwisdom.com

Gratitude

Sometimes we take things for granted. We tend to forget to show our appreciation and not saying the magical word, "Thank You".

No matter how little a person has contributed his effort, we need to show that we care. Just simply buy a small gift or whatever to the person concern. Or maybe do something in return. That person would feel great and wanting to help more in future.

I always feel that we need to appreciate whatever a person has done for us. Just show our gratitude...

Fast Shot

I simply love to shoot from where I sit in the bus. Sometimes I could get quite a good shot. Like this London Eye..I wouldn't be able to get a full shot of it if we were so near it.

London Eye!

Self-Reliance

self-re·li·ance (slfr-lns)

n.

Reliance on one's own capabilities, judgment, or resources; independence.

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self-re·liant adj.

self-re·liant·ly adv.

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Adj.

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self-reliant - (of persons) free from external control and constraint in e.g. action and judgment self-directed, autonomous independent - free from external control and constraint; "an independent mind"; "a series of independent judgments"; "fiercely independent individualism"

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self-reliant

adjective independent, capable, self-sufficient, self-contained, self-sustaining, self-supporting, able to stand on your own two feet (informal) She is intelligent and self-reliant.
dependent, helpless, reliant, relying on others

Collins Thesaurus of the English Language – Complete and Unabridged 2nd Edition. 2002 © HarperCollins Publishers 1995, 2002

my story:

My late gynae used that word on me. It was many years ago when I had just delivered my baby. I went for my regular check up all on my own. I used to see spouses accompanied their wives. 

After I had delivered my baby, I had to go for my post-natal check up together with my baby. When the doctor needed to check me, I brought in my baby too. He was surprised to see me alone.

The nurse had to carry my baby for a while. Later after the process, the doctor commented, "You are really a self-reliant lady!"

Well, I guess I am indeed one. I usually stand on my own. I don't like to depend too much on my husband.

siblings

Do you ever bothered to keep in touch with your siblings even though all of you are so busy with your own family affair?

As for me, I am very concerned about my siblings. If there's any way possible, I like to pay them a visit. As for my brothers and sisters, we are far away. Maybe not too far away as we are all still in Malaysia.

So I would it an effort to see my siblings as frequent as possible. All of us should spend some time with our parents if they are still around and don't ever forget our siblings..

Modern Kids

Kids nowadays are more connected to the cyber world. Some are really attached to it. They would rather sit in front of the pc whole day than spending time with the family.

I met my friend and I happened to ask about his teenage daughter. She used to follow him wherever he went when she was younger. Now at this age, she would rather stay at home.

So I asked, 'Where is she?' 

He replied, 'Oh, she's at home chatting away!'

So, to beat them, we as parents need to be involved too..

Depressed

What is depression? How one became depressed? In one's life, one needs to be happy and satisfied with one's own life. As in the case of my uncle, he was depressed because he was very lonely. All his sons had to work and had no time for him. He accused his sons of being disloyal to him.

How to overcome depression? I feel that one needs to have one's own hobby which one could occupy one's time. In this way, one wouldn't be easily be affected by other causes.

Sharing room

I don't usually share room with other people other than my own family members. Recently, I shared room with my relatives as we were on a tour together. Three of us shared a room.

I realised that in sharing room, we have to give and take. I like to give preference to the others during the night when we need to use the bathroom.

But in the morning, I would prefer to be the first as I could use the bathroom earlier without any waiting from the others.

 

I don't mind waiting for others but I dislike people waiting for me..

Eiffel Tower Experience

It was indeed a great experience for me as it was my very first trip to Paris. I won't forget that day. Eiffel Tower has been my dream structure ever since I was young. I never thought that I would have the time to visit it until recently.

So it would definitely be great for all to at least experience it if possible. If one could make it, go for it. One would never regret but remember it for life.

 Let's live our dream..

Paris

It was such a great experience for me to be able to visit Paris at least once. I might not be going there again as I have other places to visit. In a nutshell, Paris has been my dream land and my dream has been fulfilled. Firstly, we need the money. Secondly, we need the time. I was glad that I was able to make it this time..

White Flowers in Amsterdam, Holland

Whenever I go, where there are flowers, I would definitely take a snapshot of them. Wonder why? Because flowers give me the inner peace..I feel fresh and great. I fully admire the beauty of them. Thus, flowers must be appreciated.

Charles de Gaulle Airport, Paris

I simply love to look at the different types of airport. You could see the different architectural design. It's interesting to learn about architecture as it could stimulate one's brain and thus one could become creative in a way..

 photo by http://www.flugsimulation.ch



Paris-Charles de Gaulle Airport, also known as Roissy Airport, in the Paris area, is one of the world's principal aviation centres, as well as France's largest airport.


I was there on the 21st of June 2011. It is indeed a splendid airport.

Stress-free

Have you ever been stressed? How do you manage stress?

As for me, I always try not to be stressful. Take one thing at a time. If I need to finish so many things urgently, I would get the most important ones done first. Then only I would attend  to the minor ones.

In this way, you are sure that the most critical one has been settled. Otherwise, you won't feel at peace. You would become more stressful..

Wedding Dinner Atmosphere

I love to attend wedding dinner but I dislike the noise. I prefer to enjoy the food with soothing music.

Each time I attend a dinner, I would definitely meet many people. I would love to talk to them but because of the noise, I prefer to talk less. Because I wouldn't like to talk on top of my voice.

Punctuality

I believe in punctuality but sometimes I am not punctual as things seem to hold me.

Anyway, one should learn to be punctual. No being punctual may mean not being respectful of others.

We like people to be punctual but do we do otherwise?

Breast feeding

Personally, I had experienced breast feeding but I didn't breastfeed my kids for long. I just did it during my confinement. Then I had to stop as I had to go back to work. It would be great for mothers to breastfeed their babies as it has many benefits as mentioned below.

Breast feeding offers many benefits to your baby. Breast milk contains the right balance of nutrients to help your infant grow into a strong and healthy toddler. Some of the nutrients in breast milk also help protect your infant against some common childhood illnesses and infections. It may also help your health. Certain types of cancer may occur less often in mothers who have breastfed their babies.

Women who don't have health problems should try to give their babies breast milk for at least the first six months of life. There are some cases when it's better not to breast feed. If you have HIV or active tuberculosis, you should not breast feed because you could give the infection to your baby. Certain medicines, illegal drugs, and alcohol can also pass through the breast milk and cause harm to your baby.

NIH: National Institute of Child Health and Human Development

I Don't Think of Other Women

Another denial of programmed emotions that men face, this lie is usually called for. They don't want to hurt their girlfriend or wife. So, they have no choice but to deny that no other women (real or imaginary) are ever on their minds. If she believed them when they said, "I've never seen a woman more beautiful than you," this will be a piece of cake. Providing they don't actually think about other women all the time, they should have nothing to worry about. Even a psychiatrist would tell them that fantasizing or drooling over a hot babe in a magazine from time to time is no crime.

http://www.ivillage.com

Ladies, if your husband/boyfriend likes to look at other pretty lady, would you mind?

  

Guys, if your wife/girlfriend likes looking at other handsome guy, would you mind?

Relationship

How do we maintain our relationship with our friends?

Those days, we used to visit each other and even write to each other.

Nowadays, we just message to each other and even email, facebook and twitter.

Do we actually talk to each other on the handphone? I realize many people hardly do that. They would prefer to just sms unless it's necessary to call.

As for me, I would prefer to call and talk on the phone. This could maintain our relationship and thus strengthening it..

Stay or Quit

I would love to quit from working with my husband. But I have to stay. I don't have the heart to quit and let him suffer. He needs me but he never admits it. 

As a wife, I have to tolerate. I wouldn't want my family to suffer should I act according to my emotions.

Frankly speaking, I hope what I am doing is for the best..

Care for parents

We as children should love and care for our parents. 

This is a true story about a family. This uncle has 5 sons. All of them are married and own a sundry shop each. So they are definitely busy with their work.

But their parents on the other hand are old and helpless. They just stay at home most of the time. The sons also hardly have time for them.

Their father suffers and feels that his sons are not bothered about him. Gradually he becomes depressed and he refuses to eat and thus he becomes fragile.

Now he is lying in the hospital. We just visited him and I realised that his sons make the effort to care for him.

Elderly people need love as much as us. Therefore, lavish them with love whenever possible so that they remain healthy and happy..

Blog - my diary

When I started my blogs, it was meant to be my diary.

It is fun and interesting. I have started my very first blog, Experiences in Aug 2009. I have been very keen until now. It's almost 2 years.

Blogging has taken up an important part of my life. I got to fill up my free time with it.

Blogging is great for young and elderly alike. So no one must miss this change in our lives..

Optional Retirement

If you were given a chance to opt for early retirement, would you go for it?

I definitely had gone for it.

I had no choice actually. My husband needed me to take care of his shop when his brother decided to quit the partnership.

But if I were given a chance to go back teaching, would I go for it?

I don't think so as teaching is not easy anymore..

Love songs

Do you like to listen to love song?

Personally, I love sentimental songs which are usually meaningful.

When I first knew my boyfriend, I would usually find words about love or even songs about love.

Love makes our world goes round and round. Full of fantasy and excitement..

Until today, I still love love songs even though I am already married. Love lasts..

My dream car

My dream car is here!

Guess it..

Being Bullied

How do you feel being bullied?

As for me, I don't like to be bullied! If it happens, I would definitely strike back.

But nowadays, bullies can be very aggressive. They strike non-humanly and sometimes it could be nonsensical too.

But what would you do?

One should report to the authority like school disciplinary board if the victim couldn't handle it. Bullies must be eradicate!

Mum's Day

"I love you,"
said a great mother.
"I love you for what you are
knowing so well what you are.
And I love you more yet, child,
deeper yet than ever, child,
for what you are going to be,
knowing so well you are going far,
knowing your great works are ahead,
ahead and beyond,
yonder and far over yet."

~Carl Sandburg

 

 

Enjoy the moment

Do you like eating crabs?

I love eating crabs! My mum too! See..she was enjoying it and finally it's finger-licking good!

Do you lick your finger? Actually, it's not hygienic to lick our fingers but when you had finished eating something great like crabs, you would definitely love to lick your fingers!

I licked my fingers when I was done with those crabs. Yummy!

Happy Mum's Day to my great mum!

Free gift

Would you go all the way just to get a free gift?

Recently, there are so many advertisements which lure us to go all out to get the yearned free gifts.

Personally, I don't think it's worth the effort. Sometimes you even have to spend more to get what you want. But, as humans, we are usually blinded by the promises of great gifts or so.

Parking

This morning, my husband drove the car right to the kerb and right underneath the bumper has got scratches.

Luckily, the kerb is not too high. Otherwise, it would have got the bumper scratched instead!

Personally, I don't park my car right to the front to avoid scratches to the front bumper. If I'm not sure of the distance, I would usually get out from the car and justify it.

Better be safe than regret. My husband sure regretted as he had just got the bumper sprayed last week.

Socially involved

Frankly speaking, I dislike drinking beers so naturally I don't join those who love to drink.

My husband's friends are all drinkers. They would gather together after work and have their fun time drinking. Of course, I don't comment on their drinking. I just get away from them and I would prefer to spend my time with my children.

I feel that I am not socially involved when drinking beers is concerned.

Loves to drink

I only drank DOM during my confinement and I don't drink any other beers. I had tasted Shandy and I disliked the taste.

I tried Calsberg and I didn't like it too. I just dislike the smell and the taste of it.

But I don't mind red wine even though I don't drink much.

Personally, I don't think it's healthy to drink too much beers but according to drinkers, beers has a lot of benefits too.

Is that really so?

Music

Should we as parents send our kids to music classes?

Personally, I would love to send all my kids to music classes as I myself love music. Even though I don't play any instrument well, I would love my kids to play any instrument that they like.

First, I bought a keyboard, then an organ followed by a guitar, a violin, a flute and even a saxophone.

My kids play the instruments and I am indeed proud of them..

Learning through Vocabulary

I believe in learning vocabulary words. When I was in Secondary School, I loved to read vocabulary words and find out their meanings.

When I decided to become a teacher, I wanted to be an English teacher. I taught students in the Primary School. I simply loved vocabulary. I would find pictures or even drew pictures related to the vocabulary words.

When I decided to get my degree in TESL, I was fascinated with the proposal of my thesis. I did a research on Vocabulary and finally got the idea to write on it.

I believe in teaching students vocabulary and building up their word power. 

Learning English is great!

Love our parents

As a parent myself, I know I must love my mum. When I was young, I used to help my mum like taking care of my little brothers and sisters. I hardly had any scoldings from her. But she never said 'I love you' before. But deep inside I know she loves me. 

She has helped me in my house chores and child minding for many years. To me, she is the best. I appreciate what she has done for me.

Tomorrow she is coming to my place. When she is around my burden is lessen. She is supposed to relax but she never fails to upkeep my house.

Thanks, mum!

Whose fault, parents or teachers?

When our kids misbehave in school, do we blame ourselves as parents or blame the teachers for not taking care of our kids?

Personally, I think it could be parents' fault should our kids misbehave. May be we didn't teach our kids about proper manners and thus they misbehave.

But it could be the teachers' fault too. When our kids are sent to school, they are under the school's care. Teachers should make sure that the students behave themselves by disciplining them. Rules and regulation should be carried out so that students don't misbehave. Otherwise, they would face the consequences..

Dialects

How many dialects can you speak? As for me, I can only speak Cantonese and Hokkien.

Speaking different dialects could be very useful especially when you are in the business line. Like in my case, I wish I could speak Hakka. Some of my customers are Hakka and I find it very difficult to communicate with them.

Well, my PIL were Hakka but they passed away many years ago. Even though my husband is so well-versed in Hakka, I never learn how to speak it..

Public Toilet

How do you use the public toilet? Would you prefer the sitting type or the squatting type?

Personally, I would prefer the squatting type as it is more hygienic. Sitting type is used by so many people and it is usually not clean. But I wouldn't mind using the sitting type in a hotel room.

My house has only sitting type but my husband's shop has the squatting type. The other day, my husband got angry as a user had thrown a tissue plastic into the toilet bowl. Therefore, I had to write a notice and put it on the wall of the toilet. 

'Please DO NOT throw any rubbish into the toilet bowl. (plastic/pad)

Love

Love is important in a family.

But, do we say 'I love you' to our spouse and kids?

Personally, I hardly say 'I love you'. But I show my love through other ways.

I would say kind words or even offer my best advice/help in whichever way my family needs.

Credit cards

Is credit card really necessary? Majority of people would answer a resounding YES!

As for me, I don't think it is really necessary unless you really need to buy stuff in big amount. I only use it to pay for the hotel and when I order my Fitline supplement.

Besides, I usually bring along my credit card when I go traveling. You never know you might need to buy something but you don't have the cash right away.

Anyway, I don't believe in using my credit card to pay for a mere RM100 or so. I prefer to pay in cash.

Science in English

If you ask me, I would definitely prefer Science in English than in Bahasa Malaysia. I myself studied Science in English and when my kids study Science in English, I could help them as I am well-versed in English than in Bahasa Malaysia.

When I was teaching in school, I offered to teach Science in English. I had never taught Science before as I was an English teacher. I taught Form One Science for just one term as the school had not enough Science teacher at that time.

It was interesting and fun. I used the laptop and the projector to teach them the theories. During practical, it was more interesting as I loved to see my students participating in mini projects.

How I wish the ministry could maintain the teaching of Science in English but too bad, it has reverted to BM..

Healthy Intestine

Many people still don't know that the bad condition of one's intestine is the main cause of diseases in oneself. So it's very important that we take care of our intestine.

First of all, we must make sure that we take good food and not just simply any food. Secondly we must also make sure that we have bowel movement everyday. If one is constipated, make sure the condition is quickly ovecome. Otherwise, toxin would accumulate and it flows into our bloodstream That's when the symptoms of diseases start to appear.

One should eat plenty of fruits and vegetables. But in my case, I have to depend on my supplement, the Basics. I would try to consume as much vegetables and fruits myself!

Money

This person said, 'I am greedy of money.'

My response, 'What? Greedy? Then I should be afraid of you.'

I simply explained to him that even though he loves money, he shouldn't say it out bluntly. Just say that we need money so that's why we need to work.

I even told him not to be so calculative with his parents and siblings. Think of how much one's parents had spent when bringing us up. I would say I owe my mum a million than she owes me. I don't mind spending money on my mum and my family.

Money is great! Without money we couldn't do much. So the only way is to earn it and not steal it!

To be pregnant before or after marriage

My staff asked me this question. To be pregnant before or after marriage.

A very good question. Personally, I wouldn't agree to being pregnant before marriage. If I were to get pregnant before I got married, guess my mum would kill me.

Same here..if my daughters were to get pregnant before marriage, I would kill them. Would I? Maybe my husband would.

Nowadays, youngsters got the chance to stay together even before they got married. Anything could have happened. If no precautions are taken, then the couple would face the music..

What would those couple do when things go wrong? Abort the baby or get married?

I have heard a lot of true stories. Many got married because of the pregnancy. What more when they were still young..

There were cases that early marriage because of unplanned pregnancy could lead to divorces..

Experience or the degree

When you need to employ someone to help you in your business, would you employ someone with experience or someone with a degree?

In my opinion, experience is much better as he/she would be more dependable to do the work. But, someone without experience but has a degree should be given a chance to prove himself/herself capable of handling the work. Otherwise, when is he/she going to get the experience?

Like in my case. I have no experience in business but I was given the chance. Now I guess I am quite experienced..through work practice..

Trust

Do you trust your spouse when he or she has to go somewhere with his or her friends?

Personally, I don't like to follow my husband to places where he usually meets his friends. I hate places that are filled with noise and cigarette smoke. I don't understand why people could stand the noise. Those days, when I followed my husband, I had to speak loudly and closely to one's ear. In return, that person had to speak to me that way too. I hated that. 

I prefer to stay at home. My sister-in-law once asked me, 'Can you trust your husband?'

Well, I couldn't be bothered. I do trust him. I trust him to behave but it's hard to say. Anything could happen when I'm not around, right?

Is tuition necessary?

I personally don't like tuition. I prefer to study on my own or in groups. When I was preparing for my Form 3 examination, we formed a group of 6 and studied together. 

When I have kids of my own, I would love to send them for tuition. But funny, they dislike tuition too. They also prefer to study on their own. They managed to do well too.

I am so grateful that I don't need to worry. Really, I was not worried at all when they sat for their examinations.

So I feel that tuition is not really necessary if your kids are capable to study on their own..

Close Relationship

What do you do to ensure close relationship among your family members?

In my opinion, to cultivate good relationship among family members, one should encourage the others to keep in touch with each other. Be it a phone call, text messaging, e-mail, facebook or even snail mail.

No matter how busy we are with our own lives, we should pause once in a while and think of the others. Simply give them a call and say 'hello'. Don't just call because you need to call. Just call because you want to call. That makes a lot of difference in one's relationship.

Relaxing

To relax or not to relax..

Well, I could work all day but I know when to relax. I feel that one should be able to relax oneself as too much work and no play makes one a dull person.

Furthermore, one might get irritated easily too. Why put pressure on oneself? Just be cool and relax when you need to..